Grief is defined in
the dictionary as intense emotional suffering caused by loss. Common losses are of loved
ones or pets, a job, marriage, health, or a body part.
Grief and loss are expressed in many forms and each person's experience is unique. It is
also true that the feelings that we experience during the grief process are common.
According to Dr. Kubler-Ross the grief process has gives stages, not necessarily in this
order:
- Denial
- Anger
- Bargaining
- Depression
- Acceptance
One stage may last longer than another, or a stage
may be missed entirely. Grief typically lasts from 18 months 2 years.
A patient, may experience the loss of any eye, nose, ear, or hearing. A parent may
experience the loss of a perfect child when that child is born with a difference. These
are all losses that we grieve. Five years ago, I realized that my grief work, following
the loss of my eye, was not finished. The orbit and the old prosthesis were a constant
aggravation. It was the enemy and we were in battle. I had not accepted my new face. Now,
fifteen years later, I have finished my grief work. I have fully recognized my orbit as a
part of me and now the cleaning and maintenance are just a part of my routine. It was a
freeing experience. I had finally accepted the loss of my eye.
Take time to do your grief work. Set aside time to reflect and to really feel what is
happening inside you. When new situations bring up old grief it means that there is still
important work for you to do. This may mean attending a class on grief and loss, as I did,
or in some circumstances to receive counselling or drug therapy from your doctor. |
